Well it is the middle of Jan and I bet there are already so many resolutions that haven't stuck. Heck I already messed up and didn''t buy organic tomatoes or strawberries at the store yesterday. So because I'm not an expert I often times don't feel like I am an advice expert. But I"m just trying to live my life the best way I know how. 2017 was a great year with a few bumps along the road. So one of my resolutions was spending more undivided time with my son in 2018. What I realized is I haven't been able to do that with perfection, hence why I haven't blogged about it. I realized first that before I pour more time crawling around on the floor playing "dinosaur" I need to spend a little time to reflect on myself and the direction I want 2018 to go. So here are a few new realizations I've made that have provided a change in my perspective.
1. Being Realistic- Not all the laundry is going to get done. Leo isn't going to know all his ABCs by the time he's two. I'm not going to have a body like one of the girls from Dancing With The Stars. It just isn't realistic. So instead at the beginning of the week I write down a checklist of things I want to get accomplished in the next 5 days. And sometimes the list gets done and sometimes it carries into the next week and you know what that is ok.
2. Have Support- As much as we all want to be superwomen we just can't. I have learned we need support in all areas of our lives I need my family to help babysit so I can get all 3 of my animals to appointments this week (why in the world did I think it was a good idea to schedule 3 animals all appointment in one week). I recently started getting into the groove of work last week and It was nice to text a friend about some eventing planning woes. I've been struggling to figure out which church in my town I want to attend as I'm being pulling in two directions and it has been nice to talk to my gf who always offers perfect spiritual advice. I love my Mom group who I can talk to without judgement about how to raise these little things God has trusted us to raise. Mostly, I love that I can lean on my husband and sometimes say, "I want to go have wine with my gf I need you to watch Leo." I love having a teammate who understands exactly what your going through. So don't be shy ask for help and support.
2. Have Support- As much as we all want to be superwomen we just can't. I have learned we need support in all areas of our lives I need my family to help babysit so I can get all 3 of my animals to appointments this week (why in the world did I think it was a good idea to schedule 3 animals all appointment in one week). I recently started getting into the groove of work last week and It was nice to text a friend about some eventing planning woes. I've been struggling to figure out which church in my town I want to attend as I'm being pulling in two directions and it has been nice to talk to my gf who always offers perfect spiritual advice. I love my Mom group who I can talk to without judgement about how to raise these little things God has trusted us to raise. Mostly, I love that I can lean on my husband and sometimes say, "I want to go have wine with my gf I need you to watch Leo." I love having a teammate who understands exactly what your going through. So don't be shy ask for help and support.
3. Try and listen more- The last few months have been interested for me and I have noticed overtime I have gotten quieter. What I have also realized is how much more you learn by listening. I am usually the most chatty person in the room but I have kind of loved being the quieter one lately.
4. There is no one size fits all for your life- Holy smokes is this true. What works for my kid isn't going to work for yours. What works for my marriage isn't going to work for yours. What works for certain friends doesn't work for others. Try and be in tune with what works for you but realize that approach doesn't work for everyone.
5. Enjoy life, enjoy people, and have fun- I think that is the biggest thing I have been trying to do. I can't believe I"m almost 32 years old and I am finally realizing I don't have to say yes to everything. Do what makes you happy in the moment and sometimes that means playing dinosaur with my son (are you catching on this big theme in our house) and sometimes that means turning on Paw Patrol for 30 minutes sipping my coffee and surfing the internet. I am such a better Mom, wife, daughter, friend when I am happy with myself and my surroundings. So my challenge to you is try and figure out what makes you happy and stick to it.
See doesn't that all see so simple...... I think the biggest change I have made over the last 6 months is being even more realistic and lowering my expectations (in a good way). I am learning about what kind of person I want to be. Changing my mindset has really helped me be happy with the changes that I've been making. I am still learning a lot about myself but isn't that what self discovery is all about.
Cheers,
Jess
4. There is no one size fits all for your life- Holy smokes is this true. What works for my kid isn't going to work for yours. What works for my marriage isn't going to work for yours. What works for certain friends doesn't work for others. Try and be in tune with what works for you but realize that approach doesn't work for everyone.
5. Enjoy life, enjoy people, and have fun- I think that is the biggest thing I have been trying to do. I can't believe I"m almost 32 years old and I am finally realizing I don't have to say yes to everything. Do what makes you happy in the moment and sometimes that means playing dinosaur with my son (are you catching on this big theme in our house) and sometimes that means turning on Paw Patrol for 30 minutes sipping my coffee and surfing the internet. I am such a better Mom, wife, daughter, friend when I am happy with myself and my surroundings. So my challenge to you is try and figure out what makes you happy and stick to it.
See doesn't that all see so simple...... I think the biggest change I have made over the last 6 months is being even more realistic and lowering my expectations (in a good way). I am learning about what kind of person I want to be. Changing my mindset has really helped me be happy with the changes that I've been making. I am still learning a lot about myself but isn't that what self discovery is all about.
Cheers,
Jess
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